I’m overwhelmed about how beautiful the Infant Loss Mass was today. If you missed it or would like to experience it again, it can be found here. The Archbishop’s homily was touching and I found his heartfelt words of comfort were genuine. I feel blessed to have such solid support for Elizabeth Ministry from of the Archdiocese of Vancouver and am proud to be a part of this community.
Thank you to everyone that attended in person and online and thanks to those involved in making this Mass happen, I am truly grateful!
On Oct.15th, people around the world honoured infants who have died much too soon. A special remembrance service will be held and a candle will be lit for my own three babies. Will you join us?
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Mass with Archbishop Miller
2:00 PM – October 17, 2020
Evangelist Chapel at Gardens of Gethsemani
Join us online as we honour our little ones who have gone too soon. A special Mass will be live streamed, and candles lit in honour of those we have lost. Mass will be celebrated by Archbishop J. Michael Miller, CSB.
Register to attend online. If you cannot attend, you may still register and we will light a candle in remembrance of whom you have lost.
The Langley Hospice is hosting an open house for Children’s Grief Awareness Day on Thursday, Nov. 15 from 3:30 to 6 p.m. at the Langley Hospice Society, at 20660 48th Ave.
The open house includes activities such as: a tour of the program centre, crafts for all ages, light snacks, a volunteer meet and greet, and more.
For more information on the Langley Hospice Society and how to light up in blue, visit www.langleyhospice.com or call 604-530-1115.
I attended the Infant Memorial Mass earlier this month on Oct.15th, Infant Loss Awareness Day at Gardens of Gethsemani. It was one of the most touching services I have been to and we are honoured that Archbishop J. Michael Miller took time to be with us again this year. His homily was heartfelt and compassionate.
Afterwards, over steaming cups of hot chocolate, the Archbishop greeted bereaved families and asked us the names of our beloved babies as he looked at the candles we wrote on that lit up the steps of the altar during the Mass.
Over the years, I’ve learned that there will be many who are uncomfortable hearing about infant loss. When I feel people turn away, act like they didn’t hear me, or quickly change the subject, I remind myself that there was a time – not so long ago – when I felt the same way. It was before I had children of my own and I hadn’t experienced what it was like to be a bereaved mom.
In this article, Ask me his name: a mother’s request, Winetta Nguyen writes “There is so much love in our hearts when we get to say his name out loud. I know many people are uncomfortable with asking us about our son because they are afraid that it will resurface the pain and loss that we’ve experienced. The truth is, the pain and loss is always there. We can’t be reminded of something that is on our minds and hearts to begin with.”
I’m extremely grateful that we had this opportunity to remember our children at the Mass; to be surrounded by love and prayers within a supportive, faith-filled community. Over the years, I’ve reassure bereaved families that it’s ok to remember and to grieve; it’s ok to share our stories and to be able to laugh again; to honour the dreams we hold in our hearts, the joys of our pregnancy, the pain of death and the hope of eternity.
You never really know, by sharing the story of your little one, who might be touched or inspired to do the same. It may be your neighbour, a high school friend, the person standing beside you in a movie theatre – or perhaps, someone who might live thousands of miles away like this mother in Hawaii!
Happy Feast of All Saints! If you would like the names of your infants or children to be remembered, I’m happy to place them on the altar at Gardens of Gethsemani in the chapel. Simply send me the name/s of your beautiful child/ren and a team of Elizabeth Ministers and other bereaved families will keep your family in prayer.
You are not Alone! Coping Strategies for Baby Blues/Post Partum Depression & Anxiety
April 4th, 2017 from 7 PM – 9:00 PM
Presented By : Diana Ayres, M.A., Registered Clinical Counsellor and Donna L. Crombie, Elizabeth Minister
Location: St. Nicholas Church, 20675 87 Ave., Langley, BC
Will you be giving birth in the next few months?
Have you given birth recently?
Do you sometimes feel anxious or think you might be depressed or worry your spouse might be?
Have you suffered through infant loss and are pregnant again or recently had a baby?
Feeling lonely and need of support?
Post partum depression can greatly affect couples and their families. Feelings being of worried, anxious or depressed are more common than we think. Diana and Donna are new moms and would like to create more awareness about this important topic.
This seminar will go over signs and symptoms of perinatal and post partum anxiety and depression. Diana will discuss ways to cope, gain support and thrive and Donna will share her story about infant loss and having subsequent children.
Pregnant couples, new parents, supporters and family members are encouraged to attend. All are welcome!
Cost: By donation
Please join us at these two events, we’d love to meet you! More info. can be found on the events page.
Read Archbishop J. Michael Miller’s message for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. It is wonderful to have support from the Archdiocese of Vancouver and Catholic Cemeteries for Elizabeth Ministry, thank you!
Watch the promo video
St. Nicholas R.C. Church – 20675 87th Ave., Langley, BC
Remembrance Mass Service: 9:00 am
“Teddy Bear” Tea Reception: 10:00 am hosted by St. Nicholas Parish/Elizabeth Ministry
*RSVP: A response is kindly requested, but not necessary: info(at)littlelightofheaven.com
Families are welcome to bring a photo and/or mementos of their infants or children to share.
Prayers will be included for parents and family members who wish to honour the lives of all children gone-too-soon, including;
– Children of any age
– Infants & Toddlers
– Babies lost shortly after birth and through Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
– Pre-born babies and those who have died during pregnancy for any reason (e.g. ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, complications and stillbirth)
Couples who are trying to conceive and those struggling with infertility; parents who are expecting and those on a waiting list to adopt; as well as parents who lovingly chose to give up and/or welcome children through adoption will also be remembered on this day. We will also pray for families touched by abortion.
TEDDY BEAR TEA
Everyone is welcome to attend the reception immediately after the service. Families will be offered a teddy bear in honour of their child/ren through Elizabeth Ministry.
Families can enter the name of their child in the “Little Book of Life” and light a candle for their little one.
This event is open to everyone from all faiths and backgrounds, especially bereaved parents and other family members including children, as well as those who support grieving families.
We will be collecting donated wedding/bridesmaid dresses and grad gowns (any colour) for BC Angel Dresses. Please bring your dresses to the social and they will be lovingly sewn into burial garments for babies.
*Elizabeth Ministry is a faith-based, peer mentorship volunteer organization that celebrates the sanctity of life and honours the lives of all children.
We’re looking for volunteers to assist! Please contact:
Mother’s Day is coming up, but did you know that this Sunday, May 3rd is International Bereaved Mother’s Day? World-wide, mother’s who are missing their children have this one special day, to grieve together, their children gone-too-soon. May this weekend be filled with peace as you remember your beloved child/ren….
Wishing all of you a gentle Mother’s Day…