Birthday Heartache

Today I took time to honour baby Michael who turned one today.

I met with two other babylost moms and a sweet rainbow baby (referring to a younger sibling after a loss), who is now a toddler, for a walk at the beach this morning.  It was cloudy and there was a definite chill in the air, but the conversation was warm as we strolled along the boardwalk talking about life and how it will forever be changed as we continue to miss and love our babies.  

Between us, we have four little ones in heaven, one on the way and due in the next few months; one that walked beside us chatting away (keeping all of us smiling and very entertained!); and one named Michael that remains in the hearts of his adoptive parents who were asked to give him back only after a short time with him. 

This being said, I still support adoption 100%. 

Yes, there is potential for heartache and risk that the adoption will fall through.  However, for some, this is a price they are willing to pay for the opportunity to welcome a child into their lives. 

What most people do not know is that there are many, many couples and families in Canada who are on the waiting list to adopt, but sadly, most will not be given the chance to adopt successfully.  It is my prayer that birth moms and dads who are unable to take care of their babies, will seriously consider giving their children to these loving adoptive families to raise.   

Adoption is the ultimate gift of life to your child.  I have seen first-hand how wonderful adoption can be and know families who have adopted children.  These children are being brought up in stable, loving homes — some with other siblings who just adore them.     

Dear Michael,

Happy Birthday!  Know that you are thought of often and that your family loves you and misses you very much.  We pray that you are being taken care of and that you will see your family again one day for a visit.

Much love,



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